6 Key Birthday Awareness Moments
Alight awareness clan. How did you make someone feel seen and loved last week? Did you start with yourself or someone you know or maybe it was a stranger? I want to hear from you!
I hope you didn’t think I would forget! This is my way of making sure we move forward together. Remember our purpose is to raise the frequency of the world, and it all starts with love.
If you didn’t do it give yourself some grace you still got time 😉
I just got back from the most incredible vacation from Mexico for my birthday and as I blew out the candles on my cake, I couldn’t help but feel grateful for the past year’s lessons, experiences, and growth.
So, to celebrate another trip around the sun, I’m excited to share some of the key insights and learnings that have transformed me in the past 365 days.
So, buckle up, grab a slice of cake, and get ready to grow together.
The experience has been a roller coaster of emotions, from the excitement of preparing to the fear and uncertainty of the unknown of how bringing in a new member to the family would change our lives forever.
However, the joy and love that we have received through Aimer has been indescribable.
Being a mom has taught me patience, selflessness, the gift of play, and pure joy.
I know the journey to motherhood can have many obstacles. Our journey took two years and didn’t come without pain and loss.
So hang in there mom to be. God’s timing is always perfect.
I remember being in Tony Robbin’s Business Mastery class in 2019 and him talking about how many businesses go through stages of growth in revenue but lose in profit.
Dave and I laughed and thought that would never happen to us. Well, it did folks… Definitely one of the more painful experiences over the last year.
Lessons learned and key takeaways: Make hard decisions fast, hire slowly- fire fast, just because you reinvest in your business doesn’t guarantee you will get an ROI.
Don’t let this hold you back, you also must reinvest in your business.
I mean duh! How long have we all heard this one?? As someone who has been in a long-term relationship, I would have never thought communication would be an issue for us.
However, It’s easy to get caught up in the daily routine of life and forget to truly connect with your partner on an emotional level.
Remember from last week how we all just want to be seen and loved? The question we need to be asking ourselves is “How are you making your partner feel seen and loved?”
It’s easy for Dave and I to think we know what is going on in the other person’s world because we live and work together. We might know the events and see what the other person did during the day but do we know emotionally what is going on and have we truly spent time together?
Also on a side note- long-term relationships lose their passion because they stop doing what they were doing when they got together.
If this is you the question you need to ask yourself is “What is something you use to do with your partner that you can bring back again? Did you use to listen to R&B music and dance together? No, just Dave and I.
What about surprise dates during the week to a new brunch place, a beach walk, a museum, or a concert?
Jumping ahead to my next point what is something you can do that is new and exciting?
What about a cooking class, a beach walk, or a waterpark? I mean come on stop being so boring watching Netflix every night and go create some passion in your relationship.
Don’t expect your partner to change right away. You need to be the change you want to see. You will probably get resistance when you first start wanting to bring some old or new exciting things into the relationship.
You have been running on autopilot on a path of certainty and most people don’t like or trust change right away so don’t get up!
In the past year, I have realized the importance of making time for fun and adventure. As someone who is wired for growth, I constantly feel the need to be doing something that is challenging or something that is helping me grow and learn. It fuels me!
With the challenges we face in life, it can be easy to get caught up in the routines, stress, and the constant go, go, go!
However, I realized taking time for yourself by doing things like working out, meditation, and having new experiences can bring new energy and perspective into your life.
So over the last year, I hired a personal trainer, started taking yoga again, traveled with my girlfriends, played golf for the first time, and most recently took a polo lesson.
I even became more playful thanks to my son.
One of my motos in life is “If you aren’t having fun, you aren’t doing it right!”
One of the most significant realizations for me over the past year is that being present is all we really have.
With so much uncertainty and change happening around us, it’s easy to get caught up in the past or worry about the future.
However, focusing on the present moment and being mindful of what we have can bring more peace and happiness into our lives.
I realized my upper-limit problem. Self-sabotaging. What me? Only an idiot would do that so I thought ha.
Over the last year, I read an incredible book called “The Big Leap”.
The author describes a phenomenon he calls the “Upper Limit Problem,” which is a self-imposed limit on our own success and happiness.
According to him, we all have an internal thermostat that controls our happiness, and when we exceed our upper limit, we can self-sabotage and bring ourselves back down to our comfort zone.
I was doing this on a very unconscious level. The biggest breakthrough from last year was this realization. I first became aware of it.
Then it was still happening. I would have a big event I was speaking at or attending and I would literally make myself sick with either a cold or a migraine.
This is still something I am working through but now that I am aware of it I am making massive progress!
The past year has been filled with significant life changes, challenges, and opportunities for growth. I have learned valuable lessons about myself, relationships, and life.
I hope that these reflections inspire you to take the time to reflect on your own experiences each year.
Stay tuned because next Wednesday I am hosting one of the biggest events I have put together for women in tech..
I will be moderating a panel of C-level women in tech and I can’t wait to give you the download of how it goes.. and it officially just sold out!
Until then let’s break limits and change lives.
Enjoy the awareness? Share with a friend! Let’s grow together!