Taking Extreme Ownership Of Your Decisions
Alright, here we go. As many of you know, I have been on a journey of self-discovery and growth, studying the works of Tony Robbins, Joe Dispenza, and many others.
It has been one of the most incredible and rewarding journeys I have ever been on. It has forever changed my life, and it sounds so dramatic, almost cliché, but it’s true.
However, it hasn’t always been easy.
I have had to face my fears and confront the parts of myself that I didn’t like. It has been a challenging and painful process, but it has also been incredibly rewarding.
It has taught me that real change doesn’t come easy and that most people aren’t willing to put in the hard work to actually change.
What I have learned is that true personal development is not about being perfect, it’s about becoming, and that requires hard work, dedication, and a willingness to face your fears and insecurities and put in the work.
I believe that by sharing our experiences and knowledge, we can help one another grow and become the best versions of ourselves.
This week’s awareness moment: I realized I have been waiting for someone to tell me what to do.
So, I thought, it was the first week of 2023 and I was reflecting on 2022. It was truly one of the most challenging years I have had in a very long time. I became a new mom, my business grew by 18% but lost money, and I faced different family challenges.
I was analyzing, as I do, what went wrong. What were the mistakes I made and truths I ignored.
Then it came to me like one big slap in the face. I was waiting for someone to tell me what to do.
From the outside, you would have no idea this was happening. I didn’t even realize it in my conscious thoughts either.
Let’s delve deeper into specific examples of how I was doing this and what takeaways we can apply.
A good example of this in my personal life is I have mostly had Dave, guiding my biohacking journey, instead of fully owning it myself. Dave has studied biohacking intensely and has way more knowledge in this area than I do.
I have had him on my doctor’s calls, he was mostly making the decisions on the vitamins and peptides he thought were best for me. He tells me how much to take, etc.
None of this is inherently wrong in itself, especially considering he knows way more than I do about this.
But at the end of the day, I know my body best and I need to take responsibility and ownership of it.
This may sound super simple, maybe even silly, but I found myself, for example, not taking my pills because they weren’t prepared for me, and I would tell myself I don’t even know what to take, so I’ll just wait until Dave puts them all together.
Also, something so simple like not using my Whoop because Dave hadn’t charged the batteries and I would think, oh well, I don’t even know what chargers to use, so it doesn’t matter tonight.
I love that Dave cares so much and that he would be willing to help me with my health. I thought it was great that I have someone to do this for me, aka leverage which I love, however, Dave can’t take responsibility for how I feel and that’s not fair to put that on him.
He’s my partner, not my doctor, so moving forward, I own this. No more excuses, Brittany, go charge the dang Whoop and take your pills.”
Now when it comes to business, I had probably the biggest “aha” moment that made me see that I do this in other areas of my life, like biohacking. I realized I was looking to others to make decisions that I already have the answer to.
As an entrepreneur, one of the most interesting challenges I’ve faced is not having someone tell me what to do, not that I ever liked having someone tell me what to do, ha!
When you are doing something you have never done before, sometimes you look around thinking, “OK, what do I do next?” and there is no one there telling you what to do next.
Then, if you find someone to tell you what to do, you probably shouldn’t be listening to them anyway.
I mean, after all, isn’t this one of the reasons we became entrepreneurs to make our own decisions?
In 2022, I did some extreme networking. If you know me, my true nature is that I am an introvert, so this was already pushing my comfort zone.
I joined several women’s masterminds and got a few mentors, which are all great things!
The problem I realized I was seeking others to make decisions only I can make.
No one knows your business or yourself as you do. Also, no one is going to care as much as you do about your business or your career.
Outside counsel is always wise until it’s not. We need to question who we are seeking counsel from. Do they truly know you and your business and the decisions you are about to make? Have they been successful in this area before?
People love to give their opinions and advice, but it is up to us to ultimately make the decisions for ourselves, whatever that is.
With all this said, I am not saying that outside advice and seeking help is a bad thing; it’s just when you stop taking extreme ownership of your decisions is when we, well, we get into trouble.
Next time you are waiting for someone to tell you what to do in your business, at your job, or even in your career, look inside and know that you are the right person and you already have the answer within.
Let’s make change together this week and become aware of where we are looking for others to tell us what to do.
Let’s take extreme ownership of our decisions, we already have all the answers inside!
Until next week let’s break our limits and change our lives!